Most pumps will have what is known as a pump curve. This will be a graph with total head on one axis and flow on the other axis. You should be able to get that from the manufacturer website or wherever you are purchasing the pump.
A simplified version of a total head calculation is (total vertical distance pumped up) - (existing vertical column above the pump) + (friction loss) = total head. So some additional notes:
2A. If your total head calculation is exactly 30 inches (30"), just go to the pump curve and figure out your flow. It will probably be pretty low, because the literature says 30 inches (30") max. But that is what the pump curve will be able to tell you.
2B. If you are putting the pump below the pond level, then yes, you get to subtract this from your total head calculation. I believe you are calling this the 'weight of the water column'. You need to use the bottom elevation of the pond to the pump for worst case scenario.
2C. The friction loss will be higher for a 1/4" hose than a 1/2" hose. But unless the discharge hose length is really long, this number should be negligible. There are tables on the internet showing how to calculate this number.