I agree with Ecnerwal. If you do not trim these plants they will assume their natural shape over time. As to what the best shape is for these plants I have to resort to a favorite but unsatisfactory adage of "It depends". The key factors are:
- hardiness zone
- any microclimate factors
- soil type
- pests and diseases
- the maintenance in terms of pruning, weeding, top dressing that you do
- snow load and annual rain cycle
All of these factors influence how a plant grows and recovers from weather events.
For example, I see a boxwood planted next to your house in picture number three. This plant is commonly used for topiary but this one does not appear to have been shaped to any great extent.
Where I live boxwood is a chancy venture as our winters include whipsaw temperature changes from -30 deg C to +10 Deg C in a day along with the possibility of freezing rain. You don't see tall boxwoods, they don't last long enough. It is better to place them in an area with deep soil with lots of organic matter protected from cold dry north winds and windblown snow drifts.
In Europe I see boxwood pruned into geometric shapes, cats, people and more. They don't have the same problems.
As far as educational assistance my advice is the same: "It depends". The Manual of woody landscape plants by Michael Dirr is one of the finest books describing shrubs in the United States by an extremely well qualified author. However, despite the depth of knowledge, this book is written for the Illinois region. You can derive value if you are a few zones warmer or colder but indications of height, shape and habit are not always reliable outside of those zones.
For example, the buttonbush, Cephalanthus occidentalis, is described as "growing 3' to 6' high, occasionally 10' to 15' shrub (southern part of range)". The specimen I planted in USDA zone 4 was 3' tall for a few years and now easily reaches 16' in what is supposed to be the northern end of its range.
My recommendation for you is to use local knowledge. Drive around and see who is growing what, go to the local nurseries (not Home Depot and their like). Ask them what grows well and how to grow.